Please help. Forgot the name of the movie

I remember only two things.

  1. One of the characters is an old lady with white hair. She fall in love with a young man. But then she accidentally meets his mother, who is very similar to herself.
  2. She is about to move from her house and a young neighbor helps her. The girl constantly chats, and then asks: It seems like you are not listening to me. Maybe you want me to shut up?
    And the old lady answers: Yes.

The movie was made in the 90-s.

If you know it please tell me.